Looking for the Wise Ones…

Looking for the Wise Ones…

Jo Nuske posted 28 Mar 2018


Looking for the Wise Ones…

 

Do we spend our lives looking for the people who seem to know what they are doing? Isn’t it a comfort knowing that a wise head has control of the reins? At major cross-roads in the decisions of life, who can give us the best advice, rescue us from our mistakes and make the journey safer?

The idea of parenthood is one of roles : the teacher, the guide, the leader, comforter and person of responsibility that we can turn to as children.  The perception that is encouraged from a young age that “mum and dad have the answers”, is set up in the authority that parents often demand.  A child may ask…”why” and the answer may be “ because I said so.” To go against the dictates of mum and dad may result in punishment, so, in order to maintain harmony, children grow to adhere to the rules and thus take on the values and behaviours of their parents. The problem with this scenario is that kids aren’t given the tools to find the answers for themselves and become the wise ones for future generations.

As in most cycles of life, stuff comes back to the beginning, so eventually it is the parents who don’t know what to do, be it advancing technology, being out of touch, not keeping up with the times or being physically and mentally less capable. The parent becomes “the child” looking for the wiser head and the roles of authority shift.  How easy is it to drift into contempt for the previously perceived competence of our idol? It can feel like a betrayal for the now adult child who was brought up to believe mum or dad were omnipotent? Such is the disrespect that oldies talk about with the “younger generation” and quite frankly it is us as parents that set this parameter up in the first place.

The reality is that most parents have little idea of what they are doing, except from the precepts of their parents. It is easy to be the wise one to a young child and so much harder to maintain the illusion of wisdom when kids start to question….. So, my advice is don’t. It is OK to say “I don’t know” or allow discussion and come to a mutual solution with your kids, rather than dictate terms.  You will build a mutually respectful relationship, empower your children to solve problems and be more self-reliant and you will take the pressure of yourself as a parent to “always be the wise one.”

 

About the author

Jo Nuske
Serene Spirit since Mar, 2016


The spiritual awareness “industry” has boomed since we first launched this website in 2009. My personal journey of learning began 52 years ago when psychic awareness was considered a mental disease. I love the acceptance that now embraces the worl...


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