Passion, Love and Romance: Valentine's Day

Passion, Love and Romance: Valentine's Day

Jo Nuske posted 09 Feb 2011

The Origins of Valentine's Day : Passion, Love and Romance

Valentines Day : the day where we celebrate love, romance and the wonder of the soul-mate partnership has a chequered history of martyrdom and dying for love.

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A Pagan Celebration of Fertility

 "The Feast of Lupercalia"


The origins of St Valentines Day are historically unsure but the general consensus is that the "Day of Romance" may have come from a Roman "Love Lottery Day" that honoured the Queen of the Gods :  Juno ( Patroness of Marriage) and was called "The Feast of Lupercalia"  : the 14th being the eve of this pagan festival. 


It celebrated the ideals of fertility and nurturing from the legend of the succour of Romulus and Remus (the Founders of Ancient Rome) by a she-wolf.  Romulus and Remus were twin brothers who were abandoned as babies by their parents in the River Tiber and cared for by a she-wolf until a shepherd rescued them and brought them up.  The Roman God Lupercalia watched over the shepherds and their flocks.

The feast celebrations included the sacrifice of animals, the skins of which were donned by the young men who chased the women, whipping them with small sticks. This ensured the fertility of the women for the coming year, giving blessing to all of life.   The Love lottery entailed placing the names of young women in a box to be chosen randomly by the men to partner with for the duration of the festival ( and sometimes longer.)

Wearing the skin of an animal allows the person to take on the energies of the animal: history can’t decide whether these were goat or wolf skins (probably smelly either way) and I can’t imagine very endearing to the girl being caught. 
These days, of course,  if anyone whipped another with a stick they would be more likely to be reported to the authorities rather than inducing a loving foreplay!


The Christian St Valentine

In 469 CE, as a way for the Christian religion to incorporate old pagan beliefs (this led to less resistance of change among the people)   Pope Gelasius (acknowledged for overturning much of the Roman pagan religions) declared 14th February a holy day in honor of Valentinus instead of the pagan god Lupercus which was celebrated on the 15th.

The real "Saint Valentine"  or Valentinus was a christian priest who secretly married the soldiers of the Roman Emperor Claudius who had imposed a ban on marriage because he found it difficult to find soldiers willing to leave their wives and families to fight his campaigns.   Valentinus was arrested but during his time in jail he fell in love with the jailer's daughter, sending her letters signed " from your Valentine".  Valentinus was executed on February 14th 269 CE (Christian Era) and became our first recognised martyr of love.


The History of the Valentine

Card The oldest known formal "Valentine letter" has been attributed to a poem written by the Duke of Orleans to his wife in 1415 : he was imprisoned in the  Tower of London after the battle of Agincourt.  Valentines Day was not widely celebrated until the 17th century in Britain, printed cards appeared in the 18th Century, but it was first fully commercialized by Ester A. Howland who produced and sold mass-produced Valentine cards in the 1840's in the United States.


But I will ask a question : Would you die for love?

What are some of the famous love affairs?  Romeo and Juliet , Antony and Cleopatra, Lancelot and Guinevere,  Tristan and  Isolde, Paris and Helena,   Orpheus and Eurydice, Napoleon and Josephine, Odysseus and Penelope, Scarlett O’Hara and Rhett Butler : all unrequited, miserable and longing love.

There is nothing worse than feeling as though your heart is being ripped out of your chest so why do we hang on so long?  Are we hoping that the focus of our love will change their mind?  Perhaps they don’t even know that we exist! Sometimes it is just better to know the score than spend countless days, months and years in hopeless longing : it leaves us free to move towards something real.This is the heart and soul of Valentine’s Day! Speak your heart and don’t worry about looking like a fool or making a mistake!

This is “V” day : Victory over Fear!


In this period of Universal Karma, many people are meeting their soul-mates from past lives and feeling quite confused about the heightened reactions they are experiencing.   This is a time to ACKNOWLEDGE: not necessarily to get together but to say HI!   It is “Wow long time no see!” If this happens,  you have both ( or singly )made a soul commitment to connect in this lifetime.  What a wonderful gift!

If you want to bring that soul-mate into your life : see Attract Your Soul-Mate : A Wiccan  Ritual

About the author

Jo Nuske
Serene Spirit since Mar, 2016

The spiritual awareness “industry” has boomed since we first launched this website in 2009. My personal journey of learning began 52 years ago when psychic awareness was considered a mental disease. I love the acceptance that now embraces the worl...

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